But here's a counterpoint:
Taken together, I think they portray the appropriate vision of what God intended humans to use their sexuality for. Sex is ultimately about being able to give yourself wholly to another person, and as the ultimate expression of romantic love. In our secular society, it's often treated as simply pleasure and gratification. It's not that Christians are prudes... in fact, we love sex! We love it for its multiple dimensions, the way it pulls and binds two people together. It does need the appropriate setting for it to flourish, though.
On the other hand, the 2nd link tackles the flip side of this issue for Christians. Whether we meant to or not, we've sometimes given the impression to young women that their worth is atleast somewhat tied into their sexuality. It is not. We can't seriously say that someone's "virginity" is something that makes them more valuable. That's textbook idolatry (getting your value from another source than Jesus Christ), and reeks of works-based righteousness. In other words, we have no right to feel more "righteous" for abstaining. Because we've all lusted before, and that already makes all of us sexually impure. Yes, we should indeed hold out for the one we will eventually love forever, because that's ultimately best for us, and best for our future spouse. But our abstaining in the process does not make us any more "pure" than anyone else. Our purity is an illusion.
God's not a killjoy. It's not that He wants us to abstain before marriage because he doesn't want us to have fun. Instead, He's doing what He always does: teaching us how to love even more deeply, even better than we ever imagined.
